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Perfection: Illusion or Real?

Body Image and Self-Love are two major topics for most every woman, everywhere. From the time we were little, we were sold on the ideals of perfection being the ticket to success… but have you ever noticed that it’s impossible to ever feel satisfied?

Perfection is an illusion of the mind that keeps you trapped and endlessly searching for answers. Perfection is also the very thing that keeps you stuck in low self-worth and low self-esteem. When you put yourself on a path of trying to achieve perfection, no matter what goals you hit… no matter how your body looks… it will never be good enough. It will never satisfy you.

You will continuously tell yourself, ‘if I just do this…’ or ‘if I just do that’… THEN I will achieve perfection. Once you hit a goal or achievement, you will look at yourself in the mirror and find the next thing you don’t like vs celebrate what you have achieved.

But have you ever stopped and asked, ‘who decided what perfection looks like and needs to be for me?’

Was it the magazines? Your best girlfriends? Your family? Your favorite actress in your favorite film? Or maybe it’s all the billboards, commercials, and television programs?

Take a moment and ask yourself, “Who told me what I need to look like in order to be deemed successful or better than anyone else? Who defined what that needs to be for me?”

Go ahead… take a moment and reflect. I’ll wait.




Pretty powerful when you give yourself pause to become aware of where the energy of perfectionism came from, isn’t it?? Even so, our work doesn’t simply end here, because if it did, you would end up blaming everyone else for something that is going on within you. I don’t want that for you. What I do want is to teach you how to fall so madly in love with yourself that the chains of perfectionism are broken, and you are set free.

What do you think? Do you want that for yourself? Do you want that for all our daughters, mothers, sisters, aunties, girlfriends, and partners too?

Yes? Then keep reading on…

No? Absolutely no hard feelings, just exit this page and move along…

For those of you still here and longing so much to be free of shame and low self-worth; I got you.

You see, one of the most magical accomplishments of my life was learning to fall deeply and madly in love with myself and my body, exactly as I am. And I remember the moment it happened like it was yesterday! It was April 2017. I was on a plane flying to Puerto Rico with my hubby and kids for 10 days of fun in the sun… EXCEPT…I wasn’t feeling the fun part. I was feeling the low self-esteem part at the thought of being in a swimsuit.

All my perfectionist thoughts and images came flooding in… and with each one, I realized I was farter and farther from ‘perfect’ and I sank lower and lower in my energy field. My kids were PUMPED to swim all day…. My hubby was PUMPED to play in the ocean… And me? I wanted to bury my head in a cocktail and try to forget my feelings.

But Soul Shakers… something rather strange and magical happened during those 10 days, because by the time I was on the plane flying home; my heart was overflowing with joy and love for myself, my kids, and my husband. That was the moment I knew what self-love truly was. That was the moment I understood that self-love is not an action at all. Self-Love is unconditionally loving and respecting your body, your unique personality, how you accept the world, as well as, honoring how your heart interacts with it... Exactly. As. You. Are.

To love yourself, is to love all these pieces completely.

Now, here’s the biggest realization I had outside of the falling madly in love with myself part 😊…. You cannot love yourself, until you fully understand what you are. And it is in that understanding, that the illusion of perfection is shattered and you can finally see how perfectly imperfect you are. Remember, I got you… And it’s only through my own journey of learning to embody self-love, that I will guide you to do the same in your own life. I will be writing often, and when I do, I will be sure to tag each blog post with the proper category. This makes it super easy for you to search categories and learn different aspects of self-love…. Belly Love will focus on listening to your body, then nourishing it, like what’s found HERE. Energetics will help you unlearn the body as a machine, and will teach you the real reason why it is the way it is, similar to the post found HERE. Meditation & Mindfulness as a path to tuning in your Soul and tuning out the noise of Ego.

You will learn through my story, how to break the chains of your own.

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So excited to have you here, Soul Shaker. I will be in touch soon!


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